As we go about our everyday life, enjoying or loathing our experiences, we are always surrounded by an entire realm of energetic interactions. These subtle energies are not easily palpable, and cannot be perceived by the regular senses.
For example, many people have experienced a fleeting feeling that some presence was in a room with them, when no one was actually present. Similarly, most people, even when blindfolded, can sense a person standing next to them. Or sometimes, when we buy a home or car, for example, we become aware that something ‘feels off’ about it, but we just cannot quite put our finger on it.
In such cases we are perceiving energy with our so-called ‘sixth sense.’ We cannot physically see, smell, hear, taste or feel the energy, but we ‘sense’ it intuitively. It is also known as clairsentience or extra-sensory perception, which is perception beyond the five normal senses.
Every person perceives energy in this way, however, some people are naturally more sensitive to it. The spiritual or metaphysical community uses different terms for such individuals, including psychic, intuitive, sensitive or empath. The empath is a sensitive person who specifically has a higher level of awareness of other people’s feelings and emotions.
Empaths are often judged from a young age as being ‘too sensitive or ‘overly emotional’ by family members or care-givers. Sadly, this often promotes the false belief that emotional sensitivity is somehow a ‘weakness,’ or the opposite of inner strength, self-confidence, or even intelligence.
When we self-regulate well, we are better able to control the trajectory of our emotional lives and resulting actions based on our values and sense of purpose ~ Amy Leigh Mercree
In truth, empaths exhibit high levels of Emotional Intelligence (EQ) – a highly desired and valuable trait to have in social collaborations and interactions. Many empaths also tend to have exceptional creative and artistic abilities, and they often excel at valued tasks like teaching, negotiating, counseling, and care-giving. They also tend to have a strong affiliation with nature, children, and animals.
While being in-tune with how others feel can be a very valuable life tool, it also presents experiences that are less desired. As such, empaths often report anxiety in crowded and loud environments. They tend to feel their energy drained after social gatherings, and frequently require a period of time alone to return to a more balanced emotional and physical state.
From the perspective of energetic interaction, the change in their well-being is caused by diffusion of various energies with their own energy field. To create a visual example, think of the diffusion process when substances intermingle during the movement of their particles. For example, hot water evaporating in the air.
More often than not, empaths consider layers of foreign energy as their own and continue ‘wearing’ it, yet unfitting their own base energy levels. Eventually, an empath will recognize gradual or sudden emotional changes, connecting them to unexplained irritation, frustration, sadness, depression, exhaustion, whatever the case may be.
Fortunately, the human body is a perfect creation that contains self-preserving mechanisms designed to keep us alive and well. As the energy alarm system starts going off, empaths recognize that they need to do something to make themselves feel better.
How do you define ‘taking care of yourself’? Create a new self-care practice today. Observe your comfort level when it comes to being good to yourself. Discomfort is a wise teacher ~ Caroline Myss
While activities useful for restoring energy balance greatly depend on the individual (after all, we are all unique) there are some practices that are more effective than others. The following techniques are very effective as an ‘energy tune-up’ and can provide cumulative results when practiced consistently.
Get moving! Physically moving your body helps to redistribute accumulated energy and recharges your ‘battery.’ In addition, any aerobic activity, such as jogging, biking, swimming, or dancing, increases levels of endorphins, which are hormones secreted within the brain and nervous system. They activate the body’s opiate receptors, causing a natural painkilling effect, which also lifts our mood and makes us feel happier.
If your are not a big fan of strenuous activity, then try just walking in nature, or doing gentle yoga stretches. Any movement is better than none.
We are what we eat. Eating a healthy, nutritious diet is vital for the well-being of the empath. There are various approaches to healthy eating. I believe one should experiment with how your body responds to different foods and dietary styles, and stick with what works best for you as a unique individual. I personally prefer a Mediterranean-type diet, which is an easy pattern to follow. I also find that I function more optimally when I avoid sugar and highly processed foods. A healthy diet will give you a energetic leg up on a daily basis, and especially during stressful times.
Water is life. It is extremely important for empaths to stay well-hydrated during the day. Water helps to restore energy balance throughout the body, by aiding in chemical and elimination processes.
How much water is needed for optimal hydration is highly individual, depending on your weight and daily activities. As a rule of thumb, if you only drink when you feel extremely thirsty, it may be a sign you are not consuming enough water. Don’t wait for the body to tell you it needs water. Sip on it during the day.
And of course, being close to large bodies water, by spending time on the beach or by a lake, is a great way to cleanse and recharge your energy field.
Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are. There is a perpetual energy exchange taking place between us and the rest of the world. As you become more aware of your own energy, it will be easier to notice which friends give you some energy, and which ones continuously only take energy from you.
It is absolutely okay to set boundaries regarding who you spend your time with, or how long you stay on the phone with someone. It is also okay to take some time out and spend it by yourself, if that is what you feel you need. You do not need an excuse to protect your well-being.
Make yourself happy! The key here is to actively look for what makes you happy and allowing yourself to enjoy it fully and wholeheartedly. Allow yourself to be in the moment. Sit in meditation, connect with nature, run a marathon, enjoy a cup of tea, listen to your favorite music, cross-stitch, or CrossFit. Whatever makes you happy, just do it, and be unapologetic about it!
Even the small moments of happiness, soaking in the bathtub or cuddling with your pet, lift up your energy and feed your soul. We came into this world to learn who we are and how to enjoy being ourselves in our own authenticity. No one else can do it for us. And to be honest, I wouldn’t want to, would you?